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Self-compassion and Loneliness

According to Caldwell, (2013), the mirror role of the mother and family is essential in the life of an infant. The face of the mother is vital in how the child develops him or herself. The theoretical framework is that the child and the mothers’ relationship create the character of the child as he or she grows. Caldwell, (2013), substantiates the claim that what the baby sees in the mother is what he or she sees in him or herself. Consequently, the mothers look at the baby is naturally what the child sees in herself as a mother. However, the mirroring is usually taken for granted because, in the case of Maria, the mother had a severe emotional and physical abuse that she witnessed from her birth father thus making her vulnerable to the same kind of treatment from her other relationships.

In most cases, most babies do not get back what they deserved and what they are giving from their families and mothers. Therefore they search to find themselves, but they end up alone and do not see themselves but their mother. Thus, there are inevitable consequences that the child passes through in that their capacity begins to weaken and in one way or another they start looking around for other methods of getting something of themselves from the environment.

In the same manner, when the face of the mother does not function as a mirror to the child, there is an extreme case of menacing chaos that the child experiences as a consequence. Most toddlers when they grow up how they were treated when they were young will make them be puzzled on the role of mirrors and what mirroring has to offer (Segal 2018). In the case of Maria, the mothers face unresponsive. Thus she looks into the mirror so that she can tell herself that she is alright when she is emotional.

In the human childhood experience and development, transitional objects are used. Transitional objects are usually, physical objects that replace the mother to child bond. The most common objects used can be dolls, teddy bears and blankets. When the child is developing from a dependent to an independent person, there is a sense of satisfaction that she needs from the mother because as he or she is growing up, they see themselves and the mother as complete (Kirshner 2010); (Segal 2018). When Maria was being tortured by her birth father physically and emotionally, she ran to her mother for solace. Therefore, the child used her mother as a desire created to bring satisfaction, while also using the objective reality experience to independently seek objects of desire such as dolls and teddy bears.